We all have people, places, things, and behaviors that we are “devoted” to. I can be devoted to my friends or family. To science. To helping others. To something bigger than just myself. To that still, small voice within. To understanding my flaws and improving myself. To my ideals. To my habits – the edifying Read More
Category: Blog
What is NLP?
NLP stands for “neuro linguistic programming.” NLP is a collection of tools and techniques that allow you to change your behaviors and experience more emotional flexibility by shifting your mental attention to what’s most effective in a given moment. It’s also a mindset or an approach to life, problem solving, relationships, happiness, productivity, and contentment. Some people Read More
Your Two Minute Brainstorming Refresher
Do you need to help your team, employees, focus group, family , or yourself quickly and freely come up with a whole bunch of new ideas?Brainstorming is used to quickly generate many new ideas. The ideas are fresh, untested, and not yet researched. And starting with a big pool of many new ideas can help Read More
Wrap Up
A final note about the Mini Date experiment: I found it useful to occasionally break my own rules and learn what happens. After all, these are organic people, not robots! I took time to have a little fun with it, ok?! For me, too much seriousness takes the joy out of life. I don’t think Read More
Mini Date Lesson #5: A Sense of Abundance and Dating
I’ve heard that many people struggle with obsessing over a single person or stressing over the feeling that if this first date isn’t with “the one” the whole process will be worthless. Because my friends had told me that it was important to meet *many* people, I was too busy to do much obsessing or Read More
Mini Date Lesson #4: Meet In A Public Place To Talk (And Listen)
Perhaps this learning point is obvious to other folks, and it took me a while to refine so perhaps it’s useful to others. Mini Dates worked best when I chose public places with other people around, where I felt completely safe, and where it was easy to have a conversation and interact. Quieter bars, restaurants that didn’t Read More
Mini Date Lesson #3: Choose Your Conversation Topics Wisely
My friend and NLP/ wellness blogger MaryAnn Reynolds knows my interest in questions. I told her about the Mini Date experiment and she asked me about the questions I used. With the 15-30 minute time constraint of a Mini Date, what we chose to talk about was key. My friends used their Mini Date adventures Read More
Mini Date Lesson #2: Keep It Short
Mini Dates are 15-30 minutes, with both people expecting the meeting to be short. There’s an art to setting up an enjoyable first meeting, especially when it’s so quick. Once we had exchanged a few messages or talked on the phone briefly, I would bring up the topic of getting together if he didn’t. I Read More
Mini Date Lesson #1: Invite Adventurously
Both of my friends suggested using Mini Dates as a way to meet a lot of *different* people in person. As long as I felt safe, the Mini Dates were a great time to meet with people who weren’t my usual “type.” This provided a lot of insight about why my perceived “type” wasn’t always Read More
What is a Mini Date?
What is a Mini Date? It turns out that going on a whole bunch of short dates quickly taught me about myself, how to read other people online and in person, and a whole bunch of useful relationship skills that, because I hadn’t dated in a while, turned out to be really useful. A Mini Date is a Read More