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A final note about the Mini Date experiment: I found it useful to occasionally break my own rules and learn what happens. After all, these are organic people, not robots! I took time to have a little fun with it, ok?! For me, too much seriousness takes the joy out of life. I don’t think Read More

I’ve heard that many people struggle with obsessing over a single person or stressing over the feeling that if this first date isn’t with “the one” the whole process will be worthless. Because my friends had told me that it was important to meet *many* people, I was too busy to do much obsessing or Read More

Perhaps this learning point is obvious to other folks, and it took me a while to refine so perhaps it’s useful to others. Mini Dates worked best when I chose public places with other people around, where I felt completely safe, and where it was easy to have a conversation and interact.  Quieter bars, restaurants that didn’t Read More

My friend and NLP/ wellness blogger MaryAnn Reynolds knows my interest in questions.  I told her about the Mini Date experiment and she asked me about the questions I used. With the 15-30 minute time constraint of a Mini Date, what we chose to talk about was key. My friends used their Mini Date adventures Read More

Mini Dates are 15-30 minutes, with both people expecting the meeting to be short.  There’s an art to setting up an enjoyable first meeting, especially when it’s so quick. Once we had exchanged a few messages or talked on the phone briefly, I would bring up the topic of getting together if he didn’t. I Read More

Both of my friends suggested using Mini Dates as a way to meet a lot of *different* people in person. As long as I felt safe, the Mini Dates were a great time to meet with people who weren’t my usual “type.” This provided a lot of insight about why my perceived “type” wasn’t always Read More

What is a Mini Date? It turns out that going on a whole bunch of short dates quickly taught me about myself, how to read other people online and in person, and a whole bunch of useful relationship skills that, because I hadn’t dated in a while, turned out to be really useful. A Mini Date is a Read More

At the age of 36 I was suddenly single. Surprise! I had not dated as an adult, ever.  After being single a while and enjoying that, I thought I would enjoy the adventure of dating, for the first time. Online dating appealed to me because I could theoretically meet people outside my usual sphere of Read More

This is the story of why and how I went on 46 “Mini Dates.” You might enjoy reading this article series if: You are interested in meeting people via online dating sites You meet a lot of new people regularly and like to consider new ways of interacting with them You like learning from other Read More