Do lists help or hurt you? We live in the “there’s an app for everything” world, where we can make infinite “to do” lists and manage our 7 calendars and set Reminders for everything. But these amazing tools won’t make sure that I’m living a meaningful life. These amazing tools also won’t help me find Read More
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Pause. Before Goal Setting.
Which questions help you get into a great state to set inspiring goals? It’s that time of year – when those notorious New Years Resolutions come up. Why are resolutions notorious? In my book, resolutions are notorious because we tend to set resolutions based on: What do the other people in my life think I Read More
What is NLP?
NLP stands for “neuro linguistic programming.” NLP is a collection of tools and techniques that allow you to change your behaviors and experience more emotional flexibility by shifting your mental attention to what’s most effective in a given moment. It’s also a mindset or an approach to life, problem solving, relationships, happiness, productivity, and contentment. Some people Read More
Your Two Minute Brainstorming Refresher
Do you need to help your team, employees, focus group, family , or yourself quickly and freely come up with a whole bunch of new ideas?Brainstorming is used to quickly generate many new ideas. The ideas are fresh, untested, and not yet researched. And starting with a big pool of many new ideas can help Read More
Fireflies: A Moment From Life
What moments from your past would you like to focus on and enjoy even more? Bob Arriaga, an NLP and fitness coach in Houston, recently reminded that life is a collection of created moments, one after the other.Sharing a memory amplifies that past moment and makes it easier to re-experience positive past emotions.Many moments that I want Read More
Wrap Up
A final note about the Mini Date experiment: I found it useful to occasionally break my own rules and learn what happens. After all, these are organic people, not robots! I took time to have a little fun with it, ok?! For me, too much seriousness takes the joy out of life. I don’t think Read More
Mini Date Lesson #5: A Sense of Abundance and Dating
I’ve heard that many people struggle with obsessing over a single person or stressing over the feeling that if this first date isn’t with “the one” the whole process will be worthless. Because my friends had told me that it was important to meet *many* people, I was too busy to do much obsessing or Read More
Mini Date Lesson #4: Meet In A Public Place To Talk (And Listen)
Perhaps this learning point is obvious to other folks, and it took me a while to refine so perhaps it’s useful to others. Mini Dates worked best when I chose public places with other people around, where I felt completely safe, and where it was easy to have a conversation and interact. Quieter bars, restaurants that didn’t Read More
Mini Date Lesson #3: Choose Your Conversation Topics Wisely
My friend and NLP/ wellness blogger MaryAnn Reynolds knows my interest in questions. I told her about the Mini Date experiment and she asked me about the questions I used. With the 15-30 minute time constraint of a Mini Date, what we chose to talk about was key. My friends used their Mini Date adventures Read More
Mini Date Lesson #2: Keep It Short
Mini Dates are 15-30 minutes, with both people expecting the meeting to be short. There’s an art to setting up an enjoyable first meeting, especially when it’s so quick. Once we had exchanged a few messages or talked on the phone briefly, I would bring up the topic of getting together if he didn’t. I Read More